Hanging by a thread

We as a society (in the west at least) seem to have developed this idea that Mistakes are BAD. I don’t really understand why. Everyone makes mistakes, it’s part of being human. Mistakes themselves are Neutral. It’s how they came about/how you deal with them that’s important.

I personally feel that being honest, owning your mistake and attempting to learn from it is the way to go. Apologising to anyone that may have been hurt or inconvenienced is important. And I mean a genuine apology not just a dismissive “sorry” or “oops”

But to purposefully do things that will hurt or trouble other people isn’t a “mistake” It’s an intentional action that you took where you knew that someone else would pay the price. People who do these things should be held accountable.

Or continued mistakes, I’m not sure what else to call them, but to make the same error over and over and not learn from it is just as bad. Again in this situation people should be held accountable.

This “Mistakes are Bad” seem to have developed alongside the “pass the buck” mindset. I don’t get this either. It all seems to have some unwritten rules/underhanded feel to it. But it seems to have especially invaded our Governments and state run organisations.

People desire the power of certain positions but don’t want the responsibility or accountability that comes with such power. And because these types of people eventually get what they want, this is the world we live in now. Everyone frantically scrambling to cover their own backside instead of actually doing the job they were assigned to do.

I’m debating whether to start naming and shaming. I’m tired of fighting an invisible war against institutions that are supposed to be there FOR the people but have instead been corrupted by power hungry individuals that think it’s all about them.

But then I wonder, If I start down this route, won’t I become just like them? Seeking power even as it corrupts me? All I want is to be Safe. To have a roof over my family’s head that is secure. To be able to live my life, with support to help me be somewhat independent. I want my children to be able to grow up and follow their dreams, fall in love, grow and develop as individuals without the burdens that I’ve had to experience. But I’m not sure they can do that in this world.

we’re already at a disadvantage, living as Neurodivergents in a neurotypical world. How can I, Just one screwed up single mother, change that?

I’m scared to stand still and scared to move forward. I wish this sort of thing came with a Manual.